guys are douchebags. there's no getting around it anymore. far too many of us follow our dicks, no matter how other people might be affected, and no matter how much we may care about those other people. sure, we have our moments when we listen to girls' problems and we try to comfort you, but as soon as we feel insulted or our dicks...beckon, we do something insensitive or dickish. this probably still applies to me, but not the point.
basically, women deserve better than us. we don't notice you enough. you try to look pretty for us, you try to be nice to us, to get a point across, and we just don't take the hint. you let us know you're hurting, and maybe we're uncomfortable or don't know what to say, so we change the subject. girls, i'm sorry we as a gender aren't considerate enough to do right by you. as much as you listen to us and pick us up on the rare occasions when we choose to talk about our problems, we just can't be the man you deserve.
i truly wish we as guys were better, but sometimes it's like we're not even trying.
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Man, I hate when guys fall into the trap of self-loathing/having an inferiority complex because people are always telling them that guys are so this or that. Guys are insensitive, guys are sex crazed, guys are... (you fill in the blank). The truth of the matter is people suck. Yes, guys are douchebags. But girls are too. These are the side effects of the flawed human condition. There are 6 billion+ people on this earth, somewhat under half of which fall under the category of having an XY chromosome set. To say that we as a gender have done any one thing is tantamount to saying all black people love to eat watermelon. Why is it okay and even encouraged for girls to be manipulative? (Have you looked at Cosmopolitan lately?) Why do women enjoy so much telling certain guys that they're "different?" It's practically a pickup line, the way they admit to personal stereotyping of a whole gender. Of course I'm different. But that's because there's only one of me on this damned planet, not because I don't fit your stereotypical mold. Why should I have to bear your negative expectations of my entire gender? And you're telling me that now, if I make a mistake, it's not a mistake so much as it is a crack in a facade I was presenting? Because you expect certain things of guys, I must just have been pretending? The point is I know that we both know a good amount of honest, sensitive guys, who've been burned pretty badly (and unwarrantedly) by women in the past. I would say I know just as many "good" men as I do "good" women. But how often do you hear guys talk about a messed up past relationship as if the entire female gender perpetrated the act? And yet girls that I know, even if they've had as many good relationships as bad ones seem so inclined to blame an entire gender based on a few experiences. (All whilst ignoring examples that don't agree with the point they're trying to make) We wouldn't permit that sort of bias against any other group- and yet our society encourages it. There's been no battle of the sexes; only one gender bothered showing up. Collective guilt from years of paternalistic abuses convinced men not to stand up. That wouldn't necessarily have been a bad thing. But hypocrisy is no better from one side than it is from the other. Calling all men pigs is okay, but saying that women nag isn't? I'm not claiming that men don't fuck up- just that there is no gender based monopoly on douchebaggery. And it pains me to hear that you might think there is. It was never "anything you can do I can do just as well" it's always been "anything you can do I can do better" and if that's what women are fighting for, superiority, that would explain why there are many men who resent it. If the superiority complex wasn't okay for men to have, why is it okay now if women have it? I'm not saying that there hasn't been inequality in the past, nor that it doesn't continue to exist, but it's subsequently become more acceptable to lump guys together as vapid or horny than it would be to say, stereotype women as shallow or weak. Both statements are equally hurtful. And if this is what women expect of us, I know plenty of guys who, rather than spending their lives fighting a stereotype that they were born into, will simply be the very thing that the girls would accuse them of being anyway. A woman who control's her boyfriend's actions is "strong-willed," a man who does the same is "domineering." The truth isn't that men suck, or women suck, we all suck to varying degrees. But so long as this gender war rages against the substantive consciousness of girls, boys, young men, and young women, people will only stoop low enough to pick up the stereotypes we hand them.
Sorry 'bout the rant, man- but it just irks me to hear this.
-E-
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