girls

this may not hold for all guys, but it's how i see it.

when guys are in a relationship with someone we care about or respect, be it romantic or just friendly, sometimes it feels like we're on a pedastal with a not so sturdy base. the higher ur opinion of us, the higher the pedastal, and the higher chance we have to fall from ur grace.

when we care about u, we want to be your superman. we want to take care of u, help u out at least, and most of all, seem invincible. we (or at least me) get scared sometimes that if we show fear or break down in front of u, u'll lose respect for us, or get scared by our emotions, and leave. obviously, we don't want that, so sometimes we bottle up how we feel. we dont tell u straight out, but we still feel it, so we get sort of passive aggressive so that we can get our point accross without showing the weakness of sharing our turmoil. we're like little kids throwing tantrums or scowling in the corner just to get attention and to get taken care of.

but there's still the father figure in us who wants to provide and be a pillar of strength, who, even when the world is falling apart, wants to keep the children calm and look like we have everything under control, so sometimes we just shut down, and ignore or try to repress our emotions. completely. so we don't show how we feel at all, we just stop showing that we feel. we think we're protecting you by bearing our own burdens, because we don't want to whine and bitch to you, because we're supposed to take care of u, stay level-headed and stay strong for u.

but no matter how much we dislike it, guys do feel, and so we try to cope in those ways. with us, it builds up and builds up to, until we either burst out, telling everything, crying to ourselves, breaking down in ur arms, or emptying ourselves. it's like a sun in supernova. we have all this pent up energy, and we have to get rid of it. so we either burn, by ourselves, or burning others with us, or we implode and become vaccuuous, a black hole where we used to feel.

again, i could be wrong, and i may have gotten carried away with the metaphors, but to all women who get confused by men, i hope this helps.